Parenting Help: Teach the 3 R’s of Making Things Right

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I had a moment of inspiration the other day after yet anOTHer argument between the boys. Because seriously…there’s only so many times I can stand listening to the same. old. conflicts.

After getting angry myself (and having to take me on a cool-down walk around the block), I sat the boys down and told them we were going to talk about the 3 R’s of Making Things Right. By this time they were calm too, and everyone listened very well. I wrote on the marker board while I talked. (I used colored markers, so you’re getting the FULL treatment here with colored font.  You’re welcome.)

1. Repentance: When you repent, you are TRULY sorry for having done wrong. You have every intention of not doing that wrong again.

2. Reconciliation: When you reconcile, you make up to the person. This involves two things; an apology to the person you wronged, and an effort to make friends with them. Because the person may still be angry, you should go on to step 3 if this doesn’t work right away.

3. Restitution: You need to fix whatever was broken and if possible, make things better than they were before you started.

So there you have it. The 3 R’s of Making Things Right. I had said something in anger, so I modeled the process by apologizing for my words and promising not to say that again.

Nobody apologized to me for their wrong doing, but at least we learned a little bit.


Earnest Parenting: help for parents who want their children to make things right.

The editor-in-chief of Earnest Parenting, Amy is the mother of two sets of twin boys. Yes, they drive her crazy, but they also make her laugh occasionally. Amy enjoys writing, quilting, reading, and working on her burgeoning cyber empire.

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