I am the Queen of Warning, married to the King of Warning. If the boys are on the wrong track, we both like to correct them. However, this is not conducive to the Love and Logic technique of letting kids mess up to learn lessons. So! I’m trying not to give warnings. Last week, we had an interesting situation develop around piano lessons. Here’s a snippet:
Normally I go and try to get them back on track by reminding them of their job and warning that they’ll suffer (insert consequence here-today it was lost friend time) if they don’t straighten up.
This time, I didn’t do it. I stopped myself from walking over to the office and instead focused on younger boys’ work. When it was time to go to piano lessons I initiated departure procedures.
Boy were they upset! The shock and betrayal… it was impressive.
Want to hear the end of the story? Click on over to GNMParents (now ForeverParenting) to read my new anti-warning effort.
Earnest Parenting: help for parents who need to warn less.